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Terry

Sorry all about the short sharp message yesterday…
He had been on a drip since Monday am and was in awful pain despite enough drugs on board to kill an elephant.
On Tuesday morning when I went into the hospice he had what I call the thousand yard stare. He did recognise me but was speaking very little.
His two sons and my two were due to arrive about 1 pm, so I told him he had to last to see them..
The nurses did a laborious wash and shirt change which caused him huge pain, for some reason they stood him up even though he was sitting on the bed whimpering with pain.
Hefell back onto the bed and just as I was going to get narky about him being on an angle, the nurse said I think he is going…
He gave a couple of gasps and that was it. So,no, it wasn’t peaceful or pain free.
I chased everyone out and had a howl at the moon. Got myself together and tidied the room up. Lit a candle, and howled some more.

This was at 11.40 am.
The sons arrived at 1 pm. We stayed with Terry until 3 pm when he was taken to Tauranga
Park. The undertaker phoned me at home and said he would not be cremated that day but Wednesday at 11 am.
Now we were not going todo the ‘funeral’ thing however we went to the crematorium at
11 am and all told a story about T. We then went and had lunch at Somerset Cottage.

There have been lots of lovely messages. The boys(collective age about 360 years) all leave tomorrow or the next day. Reality I guess will then sink in…

9 Comments

  1. Dear Margaret
    No words really express how we feel, we just wanted to say how we are so very sorry. It may not have been pain free or peaceful but you were at his side at that’s what counts, he wasn’t alone.

    Love
    Julia and Griz

  2. Ian Wade and Emma Bryant

    January 15, 2014 at 8:29 pm

    Dear Margaret
    We are thinking of you at this sad time. Glad that all Terry’s pain is over now, but so sad he is gone. Let us know when you are ready for a visit.
    Ian and Emma

  3. Marg, We will never forget the GREAT times together with you and Terry.Bloody Marvellous bloke and we loved him.Contact you when we return home Love Kate and Leigh

  4. When I thanked Terry on the Friday morning for buying my Clacton County High School uniform (because Mum & Dad couldn’t afford it) – he had a laugh that it had only taken me 48 years to come up with the “thank you”.
    We also supported each other via (ordinary) mail when we both went through our divorces at almost exactly the same time.
    Terry was also the instigator of my Judo/Karate obsession – Terry was a Black Belt in Judo!!
    You had a bigger impact on my life than you know brother – see you in a few years.
    Strength to you Margaret and thank you for looking after him so well.

  5. Dear Margaret
    We are sorry to hear Terry has passed. We have a lovely memory of seeing him when we visited on the 4th Jan 2014. He looked so much better than expected and enjoyed some laughs together, sad that his pain could not be kept in check, but at rest now. What wonderful memories you will have of all the work endeavours and travel experiences, from your time together. His life filled with lots of adventures, a lovely and talented man. Your battles for his care and also your own have been exceptional.
    All our love Judi and Ashley

  6. Dear Margaret
    We are sorry to hear Terry has passed. We have a lovely memory of seeing him when we visitd on the 4th Jan 2014. He looked so much better than expected and shared a laugh together, sad that his pain could not be kept in check, but at rest now. What wonderful memories you will have of all the work endeavours and travel adventures you will have of yoir time together. His life filled with lots of adventures, a lovely and talented man. Your battles for his care and also you own have been exceptional.h
    All our love Judi and Ashley.

  7. Christine Kappelle

    January 21, 2014 at 8:57 am

    Hi Aunty Peg, I’m so very sorry to hear that Terry has gone. Sam and I are both thinking of you and Julian, Nick and families with much love. Chris xx

  8. Thanks, also I have not forgotten the brooches!!!!
    Love
    AuntyPehg

  9. Thanks for that. Yes, I was lucky to see him before he died as a friend had come to see him and I had gone to tell her that it was not a good idea. Just got back in time.
    Love
    Margaret

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